It is one of the scariest things to me right now. It is giving a person the ability to love you and stop loving you whenever they decide. One my friend was telling me to take the risk. Thinking about this friend of mine, he never takes risks he waits for someone to come to him first. He wants me to face my fear when he hides behind logic. When logically speaking he has no logic and love is not logical. He just uses it as a wait to guard his heart from breaking.
I see the people around me who are in relationships and they reasons for being in the relationship are even scarier. Like I understand you would not want to hurt someone feelings but being in a relationship with them because you were afraid to say no does not seem as though it would even last. To be frank I would prefer tell me how they actually felt than be with me and break my heart in the long run when I am head over heels for you.
Hurt my feeling with the truth than lie to me just to make me feel good. I do not want someone who has to think about being with me before they go with me. I want someone who knows I am who they want.
Like I am not the type of girl to make a list of want I want in a guy. I do not need someone to complete me nor do I need a guy. If I want you in my life is because I want you not because I need you in it to survive. If you understand, what I mean by that.
To me you and only you should complete you. You do not need anyone to complete you. The person you love should not be what makes you complete. When I talk about a list, you know that list where you write down your definition of the “perfect guy”. Instead of that list see what you bring to the table, what you have to offer to that relationship than making expectation of a guy you never met nor got to know yet.
It is not that I am anti relationship. I come across as anti-relationship because girl when you get your heart broken by the person you thought you was going to spend the rest of your life with. Your best friend basically your everything. Girl you turn a little cold and isolated from that term relationship. Like I know it is going to be a long while till I ever go into another relationship. But for now I shall get my life together, get my degree and live my live.
What is your opinion of relationships? What is your advice on it and how long have you been in a relationship or single??